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How to handle unfairness between siblings fairly

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Photo Credit: Sharon Mollerus

It’s too long. I can’t remember when was the first time J and K started to argue over what’s fair and what’s not. It’s as old as history.

I only know that lately their quarrels, sometimes even over tiny things, intensify to a level that I can’t stand anymore. They happen too often and over things that are getting smaller.

They try to uphold fairness in almost everything. If one party has not done something equally, the other party will start complaining. Oftentimes, this leads to unhappiness in all.

“It’s time for me to use the bathroom downstairs.”

“I do dishes more than you do. It’s your time.”

“This time you put away the toys. I did it the last time.”

“It’s your turn to wipe the table.” [Read more…]

How I reward my children with a twist

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I don’t do what most parents do. In fact, I do it the other way around. Sometimes, I don’t do it at all.

I am talking about giving rewards to children. Especially when it comes to motivating your child to achieve academic excellence.

(There are reasons why I don’t do it. To know more, read this past article:
http://www.parentwonder.com/how-not-to-motivate-your-child-during-exams/ )

I don’t motivate J and K with rewards to bribe for good results. I tell them to do the best they can. And to do it out their own motivation and willingness – at least not for some new, shiny toys.

This time is different. Even though I didn’t promise them rewards before the exams, we decided to reward them for their good results. [Read more…]

Learn about money: Bank Negara Malaysia Museum and Art Gallery

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Who doesn’t love money? Even kids know the importance of it. Without it, there will be no new, shiny toys.

One of the ways to teach children about money is to tell them about the history of the most sought after stuff in the world.

What better way to do this than to bring them to the very institution that prints money: the central bank.

I did not know about it until recently that Bank Negara Malaysia, the central bank of Malaysia, has its own museum and art gallery. [Read more…]

I Failed as a Parent

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Photo Credit: Steve Garvie

In the past few months, my parenting life was smooth and without any big challenge.

Life has its way. When you think you are having a good time, it wants to make it even more interesting.

Out of a routine conversation we had yesterday, I accidentally found out that J was lying to me. It’s about school exams. She contradicted herself and I picked it up like a policeman investigating a case.

Here’s the fact: As a parent, when you realize that you child tells a lie, it’s definitely heart-breaking. I am no exception. [Read more…]

Kung Fu Master’s View on Spanking

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Photo Credit: Jenni C

Ed. Note: Matt Furey is a man of multiple talents. To begin with, he is a wrestler and Chinese kung fu master. He is also a bestselling author in the area of self-empowerment. It’s interesting to see a “violent” guy talks about spanking. With permission, I have reproduced his article on how he handles spanking. Read on to find out what he has to say.

 

Over the past two weeks I’ve been listening to accusations of child abuse involving NFL running back Adrian Peterson and his four-year old son.

The allegations go way beyond a slap or swat on the rumpus. Word is that the boy sustained welts and bruises all over his body. Some of the wounds supposedly drew blood.

Last Wednesday, whilst driving to practice Tai Chi, I turned on the radio and instead of music, I listened to a call-in show. Guess what the topic of conversation was?

“Should you spank your child and if you do, when does a spanking cross the line and equal abuse?” [Read more…]