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It’s too long. I can’t remember when was the first time J and K started to argue over what’s fair and what’s not. It’s as old as history.
I only know that lately their quarrels, sometimes even over tiny things, intensify to a level that I can’t stand anymore. They happen too often and over things that are getting smaller.
They try to uphold fairness in almost everything. If one party has not done something equally, the other party will start complaining. Oftentimes, this leads to unhappiness in all.
“It’s time for me to use the bathroom downstairs.”
“I do dishes more than you do. It’s your time.”
“This time you put away the toys. I did it the last time.”
“It’s your turn to wipe the table.” [Read More…]
I don’t do what most parents do. In fact, I do it the other way around. Sometimes, I don’t do it at all.
I am talking about giving rewards to children. Especially when it comes to motivating your child to achieve academic excellence.
(There are reasons why I don’t do it. To know more, read this past article:
I don’t motivate J and K with rewards to bribe for good results. I tell them to do the best they can. And to do it out their own motivation and willingness – at least not for some new, shiny toys.
This time is different. Even though I didn’t promise them rewards before the exams, we decided to reward them for their good results. [Read More…]
Who doesn’t love money? Even kids know the importance of it. Without it, there will be no new, shiny toys.
One of the ways to teach children about money is to tell them about the history of the most sought after stuff in the world.
What better way to do this than to bring them to the very institution that prints money: the central bank.
I did not know about it until recently that Bank Negara Malaysia, the central bank of Malaysia, has its own museum and art gallery. [Read More…]
In the past few months, my parenting life was smooth and without any big challenge.
Life has its way. When you think you are having a good time, it wants to make it even more interesting.
Out of a routine conversation we had yesterday, I accidentally found out that J was lying to me. It’s about school exams. She contradicted herself and I picked it up like a policeman investigating a case.
Here’s the fact: As a parent, when you realize that you child tells a lie, it’s definitely heart-breaking. I am no exception. [Read More…]
Ed. Note: Matt Furey is a man of multiple talents. To begin with, he is a wrestler and Chinese kung fu master. He is also a bestselling author in the area of self-empowerment. It’s interesting to see a “violent” guy talks about spanking. With permission, I have reproduced his article on how he handles spanking. Read on to find out what he has to say.
Over the past two weeks I’ve been listening to accusations of child abuse involving NFL running back Adrian Peterson and his four-year old son.
The allegations go way beyond a slap or swat on the rumpus. Word is that the boy sustained welts and bruises all over his body. Some of the wounds supposedly drew blood.
Last Wednesday, whilst driving to practice Tai Chi, I turned on the radio and instead of music, I listened to a call-in show. Guess what the topic of conversation was?
“Should you spank your child and if you do, when does a spanking cross the line and equal abuse?” [Read More…]
I love things that bring nostalgic feelings. That’s why this exhibition drew my attention.
While it was still on, I took time out to visit “Born in Malaysia” photo exhibition in one of the art galleries.
What a pleasant surprise. I met the photographer – the man behind the project – at the exhibition. He took us around and explained to us the stories behind photos that he took around Malaysia.
We took advantage of the UPSR exams holiday for a trip to Macau 澳門 (also Macao).
Macau is Special Administrative Region (SAR) of China, just like Hong Kong. It used to be Portuguese colony until 1999.
From Kuala Lumpur, it takes four hours’ flight to reach Macau International Airport. Macau Airport is not huge and it’s good for travelers as we don’t need to walk too far to get out the airport. [Read More…]
Honestly, we dared not take up the challenge in the past few years. We were invited to participate in an annual camping trip to Pahang – at least once a year. We turned down every time due to unreadiness and other unknown factors.
But not this year! Somehow my wife and I felt that this is the time to take up the challenge. And at the same time, it’s also a weekend getaway for the family.
We (ok ok, it’s my wife) took about a month to prepare for the camping. We bought some of the equipment while some we borrowed from friends. We don’t mind investing in the tools and gadgets and all things camping, but we are not sure if we (I mean the kids) like it or not. [Read More…]
It’s been months when we made the trip. Coming to 9 months to be exact. My bad. I know I have been sitting on it until now before I took the effort to post the story about our Johor trip here. Anyway, better late than never, right?
Since my wife was busy with work, we couldn’t go overseas but decided to take a local road trip to Johor for the year end holiday in 2013. Johor is chosen because it’s the most unexplored state for us.
Needless to say, among other attractions, Legoland Malaysia is the highlight of the trip. [Read More…]
I didn’t expect this to happen so soon. Especially judging from the introvert nature of J.
When she was much younger, J needed much time to get along and socialize with someone she had not seen before. Betting her to go crazy playing with someone she hardly knew would have left you shirtless.
All these and more have changed. I am not saying that she is highly sociable now but she’s at least much better than before. [Read More…]