Getting a divorce is a very difficult time as it means the end to a vow you took to be with that person for the rest of your life. There are so many things to deal with during a divorce including custody of children, the family home, and finances. You may also find friendships you have built up as a couple difficult to maintain. It can be hard to find the support you need during this time, but it is important that you have a positive support system in place. Avoid confiding in mutual friends as you shouldn’t make them feel like they have to choose one partner or the other.
Your personal friends and your family can offer you support during your divorce. It can be financial, emotional, or both. Sometimes the support can include watching your children so you can have some time to yourself or even being a mutual location for the children to switch parents.
Even if you have the support of your friends and family, you may feel like they don’t really understand what you are going through. A divorce support group may offer you what you need from others who have been through it themselves. You can find such support groups in your community or even on the Internet. Look for Interest divorce support groups that are free such as www.DailyStrength.org and www.DivorceSupport.com. Both sites offer discussions, blogs, articles, and tips to help you through the divorce process.
Churches are wonderful for offering their members support during difficult times such as divorce. You can seek guidance from the Minister or Pastor. You may also find comfort in other members of the Church who want to help you any way they can.
Divorce brings many mixed emotions with it including sadness, relief, anger, and fear. Seeing a counselor can help you talk through your feelings to a party who doesn’t know your partner. A counselor can be an unbiased source of support for you throughout your divorce. Finding the vital support you need to get through your divorce will play a very important role in your ability to forgive and to heal.