Whether you were married for a few years or a couple of decades, a divorce is a hard thing to cope with. There may be financial burdens, disputes over the children and emotional healing that needs to be dealt with. Once you have managed through all of the necessary issues, you might start to think about dating again.
How will you know you are ready to date again? There is no easy answer, since each situation will be different. There are certain feelings you should have, however, before you do set up a date. You should be comfortable with the idea of being seen with another person in public. You should want to go on a date – at least a little bit – and not let someone else force you in to making one. A little trepidation is natural, but outright dislike of the idea means you are probably not ready.
Jumping back in to the dating pool may be a daunting task. Where do you look for a date? How do you tell the children you are dating? These are only a couple of the questions you will have to deal with after you decide to date.
Finding a date should be on your own terms. Online dating is hot, and offers you the chance to browse profiles any time of the day or night when it is convenient. Find a profile you like and strike up a conversation via email, messaging, or even the phone if you are comfortable. If all seems good, make a date in person!
If there are children in your household, hold off on telling them about the dating situation. There is no point in introducing your children to date after date, even if you are only going out to dinner. Wait until you find someone who you have dated several times and have a potential future with. Only when that person may be sticking around should you introduce them to your kids.
Dating after a divorce may be hard to get used to, but it should be fun. If it is a chore, then maybe you need a little more time to get used to the idea before you date again. Dating is a fun way to enjoy your life, and you shouldn’t let it pass you by because of a divorce.