To encourage your child, there’s a set of encouraging vocabulary that parents can use. This language focuses on the process a child does, not so much on the results. Let’s explore the seven aspects of this encouraging lingo.
Accept who they are.
Do not compare your child with his siblings or friends. Acknowledge that he is different and has unique talents and abilities. Encourage him to improve his strength areas and not what you want him to become. This also includes accepting his weaknesses.
Focus on the effort.
What you should recognize is the effort your child puts into any attempt to achieve something. Example: “It’s cool that you are improving at your science. Keep it up, son.”
Point out improvements.
Be it big or small, you child sometimes does not even know he has improved in any area. Help him identify even the smallest advancement as this can be a big confidence booster for him.
Sometimes parents take this for granted. You have to show appreciation for help or assistance rendered by your child. Example: “I really treasure that you have done the dishes. That’s really a great help.”
Focus on enjoyment.
When your child make comments on his activity (eg: outing or sport), focus on the positives he has said. Example: “I am happy to hear that you like your trip to a chocolate factory.”
Have confidence in your child.
Don’t overprotect your child. Show unwavering confidence in your child when he tries to overcome a problem or achieve something. Don’t show the slightest doubt in his ability to succeed. Example: “I have confidence in you. You can do it.”
Let your child have a say to choose from a limited number of choices. Not too many as this may overwhelm him. And this can also cause confusion and frustration.