If you suspect your spouse is cheating, it can leave you with some very uneasy feelings to deal with. Those feelings aren’t going to go away, so you will need to find out one way or another. You can ask your spouse, but there is the chance that they won’t be completely honest with you about it. There can also be hurt feelings if it turns out your spouse wasn’t cheating but doing something for you, such as planning a romantic getaway.
There are some ways you can find out if your spouse is cheating. There are some signs that are hard to miss if you know what to look for. Most of us want to look good for someone we are dating. If your spouse suddenly starts dressing better, gets a new hair cut, shaves regularly, etc. it is a sign that they are either cheating or very interested in someone else.
Does your spouse delete the phone numbers that they have called or who have called them from the history on their phone? Are they deleting the history on the Internet? You can still find out about those calls and those websites or chat rooms. You can contact the cell phone company and ask for a detailed log of all calls made from a particular phone number. You can use the Internet reverse phone number look up to find out who any suspicious phone numbers belong to. You can buy software to track Internet use even if the history is deleted. Sometimes your Internet company can assist you with a history as well.
Is your spouse spending money more than usual? Is that spending done in cash so there is no record of where it was spent? How about cash advances on credit cards that are out of the ordinary? These issues can be a red flag that your spouse is spending money on gifts, meals, movies, or other sources of entertainment with someone else.
Does your spouse make excuses to go out at odd times with only vague details of where they are going and who they are going with? Does your spouse frequently miss meals, telling you they are working late or ate at the office, etc. This can signal they are eating with someone else.
Of course, you can always hire a private detective to follow your spouse around. Ask them to take some pictures so that if they deny cheating when you confront them you can share a Kodak moment with them.