Heard a joke on the radio.
It goes something like this:
After dinner, mother and daughter are doing the dishes in the kitchen while father and son are in the living room watching TV.
Then comes a crashing sound from the kitchen. Someone obviously breaks a plate or something.
“It was mom,” the son says confidently.
“Why are you so sure it was mom?” the father asks, puzzled.
The son replied, “Because I don’t hear any scolding.”
No it’s NOT.
After listening to this joke, it hit me like a Shinkansen train that travels at 320km/h.
Because I am just like the “Mother” in the story.
I blame everyone but myself when things go wrong (including broken plates).
If you know me more than 1 year and 3 months, you would have known I am short-tempered.
And that doesn’t give me a good impression among my children. Also it doesn’t go well with the popular motto : Teach by example.
Whatever you do, your child will pick up perfectly. So if you want to teach, don’t let your child see the negatives.
That’s why I admit my mistakes and shortcomings. And I want to change.
Some of the struggles I went through are documented in my book The Nonconformist’s Guide to Parenting.
Well it’s not easy but it’s worth the change.
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